Hello Ros! Tell us about yourself?
Hello! My name’s Ros and I’m a stand-up comic based in Manchester, and I’ve been active across the north for a few years. My first show, The Idiot’s Guide to Kink, went to several Fringe festivals including Edinburgh, teaching audiences about the weird and wonderful world of S&M. My new show is about the strange relationships, anecdotes and lessons I’ve cultivated as a result of that lifestyle.
How did you come up with the name of your show that you’re taking to the Fringe?
I wanted a title that was wry and reflected what I wanted the tone and content of the show to be – a fun, sarcastic romp about having a sexually active lifestyle yet still being longterm single. I was stuck for ideas for a while but hit upon the title after a lot of internal debate; I knew I’d struck gold when I mentioned it to my photographer’s partner and she gave a shriek of laughter. I didn’t look back after that!
Tell us all about your show!
The show is an hour of tales about how I’ve navigated the world of casual kink, dating and sex without the permanence of a relationship – about the upsides (sexcapades, fun and freedom) and the downsides (loneliness, bad behaviour and terrible patterns of dumping).
What other acts are you looking forward to seeing at the fringe?
Too many to count, but I’m especially excited to see John-Luke Roberts, Bobby Mair, Ahir Shah and Glenn Moore’s new shows, as well as my old favourites Austentacious.
Have you done the fringe before? What are the key pieces of advice you have been given or would give to new groups or people performing at the fringe.
I did some open spots at the Fringe in 2014 and took Idiot’s Guide to Kink on a half run in 2017. The advice I would give to newcomers is to throw yourself into it and embrace the atmosphere and any opportunities you can; I’m trying to achieve a balance between having a plan of attack on what shows I’d like to see and/or promote myself at, but to also take chances and be spontaneous in what I end up doing – that’s what I’d recommend. Always keep in touch with your friends and check in with them when they’re tired. And don’t sleep with anyone you’ve just met until you’re sure they’re not a deceptive bastard – I learned that the hard way…
What have been some of your favourite shows to date and why?
I recently saw Jordan Brookes’ new show ‘I’ve Got Nothing’, which was a fantastic exercise in nihilism, and John-Luke Roberts’ previous show ‘All I Wanna Do…’ is a masterpiece.lone
Favourite one liner you have done in a show and why?
“Ghosting a good word it for what it is – the whole point of ghosts is that they come back.”
I wouldn’t say I write particularly ‘clever’ jokes but that’s one of my exceptions that has its own twisted internal logic, and it always gets a good response!
What inspired you to write this show?
I wanted talk about topics that people often whisper about – sex, loneliness, kink – and cast some light on them in a silly way. Sometimes I feel as a sexually active woman not in a relationship, that I fall into some unclassified gap and that if I don’t have a partner, I have nothing to say. I have lots to say!
What have been some of the most unique and different comedy shows you have seen this year and why?
Sean Morley’s ‘I Apologise for my Recent Behaviour’ and John-Luke Roberts’
What is the best way to enjoy yourself at the Fringe?
Remember to not be laser focused on your own show all the time; go and see other shows, have fun, explore. Take chances and go and see things you don’t know, you’ll come away with gems you’ll always remember. Catch up with friends, but remember to have time to yourself if you need it.
What would be your top three items every performer must take to the fringe?
Comfortable shoes – those cobbles are absolute murder when you’re in heels. A portable phone charger, for when you’re out in the wilderness and your emails are piling up. And elastic bands so your flyers and posters don’t fly away!
What’s the secret to successful flyering?
I’m still a work in progress in that area, as I find it trickier than it should be – but I’d say eagerness, eye contact, energy and a ready and pithy pitch for when the questions start to roll in from curious passers-by.
Who would be your ultimate dream audience member?
I’ll take anyone eager, loud and engaged who’ll give me a good review afterwards, but I would absolutely love to meet Hannah Gadsby one day. She’s an absolute hero.
If people want to find out more about you where can they follow you on social media?
And Finally in three words – Why should people come and see the show?
Filthly feminist fury.
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